We can help you with
Most of our clients are individuals who either see their relationships as “all looking and sounding the same” or are stuck in a never ending cycle with their current partner. Typically, they feel miserable, disconnected and discouraged by the never changing patterns, and are looking to have more meaningful and fulfilling connections with those around them.
Do you struggle with any of the following?
- You hesitate to trust others. Maybe you’ve experienced betrayal and hurt in your previous relationships and friendships. Maybe you’ve been disappointed too many times. Maybe you fear getting hurt or you assume that others will grow to hate you.
- You close up emotionally, scared that the other person will abandon you. You’ve opened up in the past to someone, only to be pushed away. You’ve shared something difficult with someone believing that they would always be there for you, only to never hear from them again.
- You turn your relationships into emotional battlefields, and alternate between extremes of over-glamorizing and undervaluing the other individual and/or yourself. You use conflict as a way to get close to those around you which eventually pushes them away.
- You are alienated and disconnected from those closest to you. No one wakes up one day finding themselves alone. This journey to aloneness is often very subtle and spans over many years. You’ve probably missed many opportunities for closeness and connection – you just didn’t recognize them as being one.
- You withdraw from close relationships but desperately seek them at the same time. You frequently alternate between isolating yourself and anxiously clinging to others. You long for love and connection but fear it’s entrapment.
- You excessively respond to the needs of others and neglect yourself. You struggle to establish and maintain boundaries in your relationships because you are uncomfortable and feel guilty for saying no. You lose or set aside who you are, and become who others want you to be or who you think others want you to be.
- You carry over unresolved emotional issues into every new relationship. You let your past dictate your future. You assume that all relationships work the same, and carry over unresolved and unfinished business from one relationship into the other.
Will it work for you?
The clients who are most likely to succeed when working with us share the following characteristics. If these represent you, you are someone we can help.
- You are ready to deal with the underlying issues that have caused you to be “stuck” in your pattern of frustrating relationships, and understand that it isn’t just about becoming a good partner, it’s about becoming a better individual.
- You are willing to face the painful experiences, memories and feelings that you have been avoiding but that are relevant to your unhealthy relationship patterns.
- You are ready to let go of the negative feelings and develop a good emotional balance in your relationships and within yourself.
- You are not looking for a quick fix; you know that real healing is a process that takes time, energy and commitment to a long-term solution.
- You are open to asking for and receiving help to move past this problem; you’ve tried so many different things, and you realize that new results require new approaches.
- You are ready for a therapy process that is honest, transparent and challenging. You’re not just looking for someone to listen and support you; you also want to be guided through the process and ensure that you achieve your goals.
- You are willing to challenge yourself or be challenged to learn new ways of coping and let go of old habits.
- You are ready to heal! By breaking free from the patterns that sustain your unhealthy relationship patterns, and learning to connect to others in authentic and fulfilling ways, you will not only find peace and happiness, but will grow into a more evolved version of yourself.
Results you can expect
When you work with us, you can expect to to get at the root cause of your unhealthy relationships, stop their repetitive and destructive nature, and create meaningful and fulfilling connections with others. You will finally learn how you came to be where you are, confront the emotional barriers, heal the underlying wounds, and develop healthier relationships with others and with your mind, body and emotions.
We are committed to helping you achieve these results:
- Resolve and overcome the difficult emotions that are preventing you from having fulfilling and meaningful relationships with others and with yourself. Most of the time, we will hold on to the past and allow it to dictate our future. When you become aware and understand how this unfolds in your interactions with others, you can then take the necessary steps to heal the wounds, reclaim your life and become a better you.
- Stop mistreating yourself and those around you. The way you treat yourself dictates how others will treat you. By changing the opinion you have of yourself, including how you see yourself physically, emotionally, psychologically and behaviourally, and by becoming more outspoken and assertive, you will improve your self-esteem and self-confidence.
- Reconnect with yourself and with the world, and rediscover who you are. Different events, even everyday life, force us to adapt and change not just how we act but who we are. Sometimes these changes can be good, but sometimes they lead us to become someone that we dislike. By becoming more aware of where this happens in your life and why, and by reclaiming control over your life and self, you will become the person that you want to be; a person that you love and appreciate.
- Find trust in others and in yourself again. Trust is one of the most important elements in any relationship; including the relationship you have with yourself. By understanding and working through the events that have caused you to close up emotionally and become mistrusting, you will overcome the fears that are keeping you from being fully present and engaged in your interactions with others.
- Learn to establish and maintain healthy boundaries, and put yourself first without belittlement and guilt. You are no good to others if you don’t take care of yourself; easier said than done, right? It doesn’t have to be. The boundaries and limits that you set, teach others how you like to be treated. If you make them clear and remain consistent within them, you will be treated with the respect you deserve, and if you aren’t, you won’t feel guilty letting these relationships go.
- Develop connections and closeness in your life. Conversations are the cornerstone of connections, and connections are the cornerstone of human growth, survival and living. You will learn how to create and maintain healthy relationships, let go of the fears that are holding you back and embrace the vulnerability of human connection and closeness.
We can help you!
If you’re looking for help that works, for the long-term, then you’re in the right place! We go beyond just “managing symptoms” and offer strategies to heal from the root and develop the skills for lasting change.
Psychologist and Co-Director
Psychologist and Co-Director